The Accuracy of Your Being
What are you truly looking for in life?What do you deeply yearn for?
If you are spiritual, you might have a conditioned answer to this question. Perhaps enlightenment is your why. Or perhaps you want to be happy, successful, or achieve something in life. There is nothing wrong with any of these answers. But how often do we pause to ask ourselves honestly: What is my why?
Not the answer we have learned to give, or the answer that sounds right, but what we genuinely yearn for. This is where an intimate self-inquiry begins.
I've been reflecting on the possibility that there is a natural driving force within us to become more of ourselves, to express new facets and qualities of being in the world. We can observe something similar in nature. A tree grows, a river flows, and a bird flies. Life is continuously expressing itself, evolving into new forms and possibilities. And we are part of this movement.
What Blocks Our True Expression?
If there is a natural movement towards expressing ourselves more fully, what gets in the way? Where do our qualities of being become blocked or distorted? What prevents us from being true to ourselves?
I've been particularly interested in how we approach the behaviours we want to change.
Consider an addictive habit. You spend an hour scrolling through Instagram, watching one video after another, only to feel drained afterwards. You recognise that you could have spent that time differently, and the self-criticism begins. You tell yourself you shouldn't have done it and resolve to stop. Yet, when the urge returns, you find yourself doing the same thing again.
I've been observing this tendency in myself: wanting to change a behaviour, trying to stop myself, and then sometimes giving in to the urge anyway. What I've been discovering is that the exhaustion often comes not simply from the behaviour itself, but from the self-judgement that follows. This has opened up a different possibility for me: accepting the behaviour and remaining curious about it, rather than forcing myself to change.
Instead of judging yourself, you can begin by asking: How do I feel after doing this? What am I getting from it? Perhaps it gives me relaxation, a dopamine hit, or a way to pacify myself amidst the density and challenges of life. There may be a reason the behaviour persists.
Recognising that reason doesn't mean I want to continue the behaviour indefinitely. I can accept that this is what I'm doing while also asking whether it truly serves my being.
When we inquire into ourselves without judgement, we create the possibility of seeing ourselves more clearly. And in that clarity, something begins to change.
The next time the urge arises, that awareness might create some space between the urge and the habit. Within that space, a different choice becomes possible. I might choose to meditate, listen to music, or simply engage with the habit differently.
The point is not to replace one form of force with another, but to discover whether a different way of being can emerge through understanding.
There Is No Final Destination
We often imagine that life is about reaching a destination. If I achieve this, acquire that, find the right relationship, or attain enlightenment, then I will finally feel complete.
Yet, when one goal is achieved, another often appears. Even the spiritual search can become another form of striving, another destination we believe we must reach before we can finally rest.
At the other end of the spectrum, we may conclude that because we are already complete, there is nothing left to explore or transform. There is something profound in the non-dual understanding that we are already complete. But does this mean there is no further movement towards change and self-revelation?
If life is continuously expressing and evolving itself, our own transformation can be understood as part of that movement. We can recognise our completeness while remaining open to new facets of being that are still waiting to find expression.
These two possibilities do not necessarily contradict each other. We don't have to see ourselves as incomplete in order to grow, nor do we have to deny the impulse to grow because we are already complete.
There may be no final destination, only an ongoing process of self-revelation—a continuous discovery of how our being can find expression in the world.
This can be liberating, but it can also be challenging. If there is no final destination at which we will finally become complete, where do we find our comfort and belonging? Perhaps we can begin to find them within the journey itself.
Our mistakes and failures, too, can become part of this process. Not because every experience is necessarily good for us, but because even difficult experiences can invite us to look more deeply, recognise our patterns, and discover something new.
With love
Vimal 💚🙏
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There is no other time to be doing this invaluable work. Its time to liberate ourselves from the limitations to the joy of our being.
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